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ON COMPARISON

Life, Set Sail x Chris Amat

Let me be honest, this was not the post I intended to write. Sometimes you can plan things out, but for me it takes actually seeing photos (or often having a discussion) to inspire what I write. I like things to mesh and, if you haven’t caught on already, I really like to tell you how I feel about things.

Life, Set Sail x Chris Amat
Last night when I was taking these photos with Chris (for a very exciting Hawaiian Tropic campaign on Instagram), we got talking about something I’ve been struggling with a lot lately. This is not something totally exclusive to me, this does not make me special or important, this is something every human on the face of the earth struggles with…and that is comparison.

If you know me personally you know that I am a) an extremely stubborn person and b) very hard on myself (thank you for loving me anyway). I am a perfectionist to the core and even though I may like to appear carefree on the outside, my mind is always running a mile a minute. I’ve dealt with stress and anxiety a lot over the years, but thankfully this is something I’m getting a better hold of.

Life, Set Sail x Chris Amat
One thing that I’ve been struggling with in particular is comparison in a creative aspect. I love working with talented people and stretching myself creatively, and most of all, the discussion that comes from it. But, I can’t help but look at what other people are putting out there, how incredible some of it is and how I want that and so much more for LSS. I feel like I have always been a decade ahead of myself in life, never able to truly enjoy the moment because I’m too busy living for the future. Oh yah, did I mention how impatient I am too?

I’m not going to say that every time I see an amazing photo on Instagram it destroys me, far from it actually. On the contrary, I am often inspired and quick to give praise. I know how hard it is to create fresh and new content and I admire those who appear to do it so effortlessly, because I know this is not the case. It’s the same thing as when I was a dancer – you can spot how good someone is by how effortless they make their art seem, because you know the countless hours spent to make it look that way.

Life, Set Sail x Chris Amat
Life, Set Sail x Chris Amat
I’m still trying to figure out who I am. I’m not a photographer, I’m not a model, but I do know that I like to be a part of creating beautiful and thoughtful content. I aim to inspire as others have inspired me, whether it be through a photograph or a few words of honesty.

The other thing I know is that I need to stop taking myself so seriously. Life is constantly changing and if you don’t take a moment to appreciate the things you have now then you will never be able to be happy.

Life, Set Sail x Chris Amat
Speaking of appreciating things, let me share some news with you…

We have signed the lease on a new apartment in the city and are moving in June first! I’m so happy for the fresh start and to be able to live in a more central location so close to everything, including my friends and the beautiful park photographed in todays post.

Thank you to my friends (you know who you are), who’s words always inspire and encourage me. I cannot imagine a life without these likeminded people to talk to. Sometimes it just takes talking to someone who gets it to lift you out of a funk, because really, we’re all in this together.

xx -b.

shirt: gentle fawn // shorts: free people // shoes: converse // bracelet: stella & dot // rings: keltie leanne and hart + stone //earrings: vrai & oro
-photos by chris amat
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  • I’ve been comparing myself to others all the time. Especially when you are in school, teachers tend to point out the difference between you and the other students, which made things worst for me… However, i think that as long as we keep on improving and moving on, we will get too distracted to compare ourselves to the others.

    Happen to drop by your blog, sorry for the long comment, but i love your photographs! keep going<3

    Paper Milk Blog

  • Claudia

    These photographs are just stunning! Model, model model! So beautiful! And I know the feeling, all I do is compare myself to others, it’s so hard not too especially with what we do. Your blog is so unique and so brilliant, others are most definitely comparing themselves to you *ahem me ahem* 😉

    Beautiful post Brit, as always. xx

    • Awwwe Claudia, you are so kind! You’ve definitely given me a little boost for the weekend haha, thank you for that. So glad you enjoyed :) xx

  • Kayla Browne

    Good lord you are so beautiful!!!

  • karina shvets

    you looks so glorious in this light, amazing pics honey :)

    http://www.peachplz.com

  • This is such a wonderful post!! The photos are just so beautiful and I can 100% relate. I’m always comparing myself to others and it’s so bad.

    hellomissjordan.com xx

    • Thank you Jordan! So happy you enjoyed it – here’s to keeping ourselves in check! xx

  • Congratulation on your new apartment. Thank you for opening up and being so honest. I can tell that you are beautiful inside and out. Hope you have a great rest of your week.
    Elise Xx
    http://www.thewaterwanderer.com

    • Thank you! You’re so kind, I’m glad you appreciated it and hope you have an amazing week as well!

  • Thanks for continuing to share your beautiful heart. I know so many people can relate, I sure know I can, I actually wrote a post quite similar this week.

    • You’re so sweet Kendra, I’m gonna have to go and check out that post now!

  • Your photographs are absolutely gorgeous! Thanks for leaving me your link on twitter! xx Sophie

    • Thank you Sophie! So happy you enjoy them, and thanks for giving me a visit!

  • Congratulations on your new apartment! This is exciting. Also, I really love this post and the photos are just breath-taking! It’s hard being a blogger and always coming up with original and great ideas without a struggle. I do struggle sometimes with comparison too. I think most of us do. There will always be that one blogger who does better than you and maybe writes better content. But we have to remember to stay true to ourselves and just do the bets we can. We should enjoy what we are doing and be happy with it :)

    -Leta | The Nerdy Me

    • Thank you Leta, we are so excited for it! I’m so happy to hear you enjoyed the post, you’re too sweet (and agreed, Chris did a great job with the photos!). You are so right…what’s the point in doing all of this if it’s not something you personally enjoy first? That’s the only reason I keep going haha. It’s not easy, but I love it 😉

  • Living in the moment is an ongoing struggle I can relate to, but when I’m able to pull myself from the depths of planning/dreaming/wishing my life away, I see how truly lucky I am. Two things that have helped me: considering how much I have to be thankful for and making a habit of pausing the hamster wheel to mentally take note of my surroundings. Now if I could just do so consistently!

    We are all on a spectrum based on our circumstances (location, natural talents, luck, grit, confidence, strengths, etc.) and making the most of what we have and pausing to appreciate it is so helpful in curbing comparison. You’re such a talented and inspiring gal that I hope you’re able to see your greatness and embrace the moments you create. You deserve it!

    • Haha, how alike we are! I’ve been trying really hard to not let myself get worked up about things as it’s just default for me…good thing I married such an easygoing guy! Hey guess what? We’re moving in 2 weeks and I’m gonna have you over! xx

  • I love that park in Calgary. It’s one of my favourite places in the city. :)

    Lovely thoughts today, Brittany. These kinds of posts never cease to inspire me. Good luck with your move!! So exciting!!

    • Ahh me too, I just love it so much! Thanks for the encouragement girl, haha I need it!

  • Beautiful post and beautiful thoughts. I’m sure most creative people can relate to these words, myself included! :)