Dating in your Thirties

I get a lot of questions about how Cody and I met and I always feel like it’s a bit of a long story, because dating in your thirties is anything but simple. Fresh out of a five year marriage at 27 meant I had to start my personal life all over again, and thinking about getting out in the dating world (as it is today), terrified me…

Dating in your thirties (ish) is both awful and awesome…

On the downside, apps like Tinder are so common it seems like no one is ever willing to take the time to actually get to know each other. Users base their entire opinion on you because of one thing, looks. It’s extremely superficial and what’s more is that it makes people disposable…because if you don’t feel an instant connection, hey it’s okay there are a million other people out there! In real life dating situations, people are much less inclined to give up so easily.

So what if you want to meet someone the old-fashioned way?

First of all, when my ex and I broke up I didn’t think I would ever find someone the old-fashioned way again…it’s just not how society functions these days. Luckily a mutual friend introduced me to Cody at one of our media events and we hit it off right away. Though we didn’t even start dating until six months later, I was happy to have met someone nice who my friend could vouch for. You just never know when meeting someone new, it’s scary!

The awesome thing about dating in your thirties is that you are much less tolerant of bullshit and more in-tune with what you want. By now you have made a few mistakes and learned a some valuable life lessons so you know exactly what you’re looking for in a partner.

Better than that, you know yourself more too! Life in my twenties changed pretty drastically many times…the person I was when I married my ex, well I doubt I’d even recognize her now! Your twenties are all about self discovery and I for one really wish that I would have taken more time to develop before dragging someone else along on my road to self-realization!

At thirty I know who I am and what I want…and I LIKE who I am too!

I feel so beyond blessed to be in the relationship I am in today. You know that list of traits you have for your perfect partner? There was a time when I thought having all of those checked was ridiculous…I guess I just had to wait for the right person.

photos by justine milton