On turning 30

When I was a teenager I used to think thirty was so old, but now that I’m there I only feel excitement. For the first time in my life I am comfortable with who I am, more than that I actually like who I am.

I learned a lot in my twenties, I changed a lot in my twenties. There is nothing I am more thankful for than the experiences I’ve had as a young adult, they’ve shaped me into who I am today…mainly by making me more resilient! And I don’t mean for that to sounds as melancholy as it does but, honestly, everything I’ve been through has only made me strong.

One of the most important things I’ve learned is not to settle…in work and in relationships (and I’ve definitely done both in the past). Life is not at all long enough to live it regretting the decisions that you’ve made. And through that lesson I’ve learned that it is never (ever) too late to start again, how refreshing!

It’s funny how we put time limits on different life milestones…like I always wanted to be married young (check and then uncheck) and have my first kid by the time I was thirty (nope, thank god). Of course along with that a career that makes a amazing amount of money, a house, a car (I don’t even have my license)…all classic things that society presses on us. And of course if we don’t have them we’re made to feel like we’re failures.

I couldn’t be more happy than right where I am. Sure, I’ve had some setbacks, but seriously all for the absolute best! If I look back I honestly don’t think I’d want it any other way.

If there is one thing I could have encouraged my younger self to do (and how I try to live these days as well) is to not take things so seriously all the time. It’s totally okay not to have you entire life figured out. It’s OKAY to not have a five year plan! Honestly life can change so quickly, I think the most important thing is to be able to adapt to all of those changes. I’ve always been the type of person who is stubborn and set in my ways, and being able to let go of some of that has definitely helped change me for the best.

I’m so excited to see where this next year takes me and I’m not afraid of being a year older at all! I’m curious, if there was one life lesson you could teach your younger self, what would it be?

photos by justine milton